Disclaimer : I'm writing based on my experience, my friends' experience and my point of view as a WOMAN. So please behave when you want to write something in the comment box. Thank you. :)
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Bagi mana2 perempuan pun, perkara yang paling tak bole terima ialah 'perempuan lain/the other woman/ orang ketiga'. Betul tak? Perempuan mana yang sanggup berkongsi, betul tak? Tak payah ckp perempuan, lelaki pun tak nak kene tipu and di curangi, am I right?
Once a cheater, always a cheater. Now, do you agree with that statement? Mula bercouple, buat hal, couple balik, buat hal lagi, couple balik.... yada yada yada.... familiar with that situation? ok ni kalau time bercinta, what if you are married for lets say 10 years.
The first 2 years of marriage, semua ok saje.
Masuk 3rd year buat hal. Bini merajuk, bergaduh. Suami pujuk, janji tak buat lagi. Ok, fikirkan anak, takpela, aku let go this time.
Semua ok, masuk tahun ke 6, buat hal lagi. same process again. Bini merajuk, bergaduh. Suami pujuk, janji tak buat lagi. Ok, fikirkan anak, takpela, aku let gooooooo this time.
Then again everything was fine and suddenly, the same old same old thing happened. Yeah you guessed it right. Tahun ke 9, buat hal lagi, Bini merajuk, bergaduh. Tapi kali ni suami tak pujuk dah. Ok abang nak cerai and kawen lain. -_-
See the picture? Kalau lelaki tu mmg dah menggatal dgn perempuan lain dari awal, bendung la mcmane pun, kalau dia nak perempuan lain, dia nak jugak. Setahun or 2 tahun bole la dia bertahan, tapi lama2? semua ni tunggu masa je. Sometimes I think, the husband is just waiting for the right/perfect 'GF' so that he could finally make the decision to leave his wife. It is sad, but it's true. I'm writing ni bukan mengikut perasaan ye, tapi nmpk kejadian sekeliling, bukan sorang dua, tapi ramai kawan2 yang kene mcm ni. :(
I am NOT memperkecilkan lelaki atau menyamakan semua lelaki. tetapi lelaki yang mcm tu mmg ada. And please anyone tolongla jangan nak debate ckp pasal lelaki bole kahwin 4, semua perempuan tau. I had enough confrontation the last time I post something about this. Tak mempertikaikan langsung pasal tu. The point of this post is "Adakah sekali orang tu curang, dia akan keep on curang forever?"
Dulu penah upload post, do people deserves second chance? or even 3rd or 4th chance? I said NO. I don't believe in 2nd chances because, well I have my own reasons. Experiences thought me well enough not to do that. TETAPI semua ada cara2 masing, semua dah besar utk fikir kan?
But as for me, kalau sekali lelaki tu dah mainkan/curang pada the gf, this is what I say to the girl, " Girl, you better get out and run away from him, run as far away as you can coz trust me, he's gonna do it again." This apply to those girls yang belum kawen, belum ada attachment/commitment lagi coz you can just walk away. It's hard, but honestly you will do your heart a favour.
But as for those yang dah kahwin and suffer from this kind of problem, banyak bende nak kene fikir. ... bersabarla wahai kawan2.. :'( Ingat lah yang Allah SWT maha adil. Percaya pada Qada' dan Qadar. What goes around comes around. Be strong my sayangness....
I'm totally agree with u. bg i, lelaki mcm ni tak matured/ tak boleh pikir panjang. mmg la syok curang, dapat pompuan muda, lawa tp lupa nak piki or tak piki masalah yg akan timbul. Contoh: anak sakit, anak dgn bini muda sakit mental ke, retarded ke , kanser ke, bukan senang nk jaga, nak bahagi masa, nak adil, nak cri duit lagi. Possibilities tu byk, laki je tak nak pikir. maklum la pompuan je suke pikir negative (kata lelaki). haha. Kita pikir masa depan, diorang pikir "short term". haha. Ni pun from my point of view la. kpd semua makhluk Allah, jgn la sensitive marah2. :))
ReplyDeletekannn... sedih bila benda2 mcm ni jadi. tapi takpe, Allah sentiasa ada dengan org yang teraniaya. :) btw, I agree psl short term long term tu. heeee :D
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